Do you feel like your family is in a clutter rut? Have you been beating your head against the wall desperately trying to get your family to pick up a little more often?
Being head of the cleaning crew in your home is no easy task. Your intentions are good, but your reputation among your housemates is often that of a nag. For health, harmony and happiness, you imagine that everyone should want an orderly home they can be proud of. Unfortunately, not everyone puts as much value in organization as you do.
Instead of continuing to shout from the rooftops about the laundry being on the floor and the shoes piled up at the door, introduce a new tone into the conversation around cleaning.
Take a Positive Turn
“When beginning a new habit or behavior in your household, focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want. I use the saying ‘shine the light on what you want to grow,’” says Carrie Krawiec a licensed marriage and family therapist at Birmingham Maple Clinic.
Often easier done than said, taking an irritating experience and flipping the script on how you react to it can help get a better result.
If you tell your children that by picking up the laundry a little at a time throughout week will help free up the weekends to go to a movie or maybe even a mini vacation, they may feel more inclined to pitch in. You don’t need to brag your family members into helping necessarily, but be honest about the benefits that could come from getting a little more organized and relieving the burden from you.
Give Yourself a Break
Maybe the fix that’s needed to feel content doesn’t rest solely on your fellow family members. While having a well kept home has a lot of benefits, putting so much emphasis on its importance could be turning everyone against you.
Get the house to a tolerably tidy place, instead of absolute perfection, and give yourself a day off. You may find that what your cleaning foes are doing is getting a little more joy out of their free time. Flip the script on your own attitude towards clean and see if you can find a middle ground that works for everyone.
Changing the way your family (or roommates) feels about cleaning starts with you. If the fist-shaking frustration isn’t getting you anywhere, try a different approach. Your departure from irritation could very well help the whole family come around to a new attitude towards cleaning.